Mom-bias in the workplace

Curious to hear if anyone here has experienced mom-bias in the workplace? Either during tenure at a company or during the interviewing/onboarding processes?

I am a mom of 2 who has basically had to pretend that I don’t have children in order to succeed in this business. I don’t talk about them in interviews, I don’t mention them to my colleagues, I don’t keep pictures on my desk! There is an absolute bias towards young people without families in this industry so that you will work insane hours, travel the globe, and keep work your top priority. Unfortunately, life can pass you by that way, I know plenty of women at the top who never married or had children because they were so focused on their career. I don’t regret having kids and have walked away from good jobs several times because my home life was suffering. My career has never hit the pinnacle I wished it had due to walking away from these over-worked jobs. So when you say “mom-bias” do you mean in favor of??? I think that is absolutely not the case as moms are juggling so much at home and in the workplace (usually you are just hitting your career stride) and there is so much guilt around working a lot. The bias is almost always AGAINST moms.

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100% especially during this pandemic. The first few weeks of quarantine (which was a new experience for all parents) I was told that my 8 month old baby babbling in the background of calls had become ‘problematic’ and that I needed to do a better job scheduling meetings around his nap schedule which was all over the place with both me and my husband being home. I was also told to be more professional while working from home with a baby… this coming from a company run by a woman who preaches women’s empowerment.

I’m so sorry you had to experience that! Last week I took a zoom meeting at the same time my son and his friend were online learning. The person I was meeting with kept saying to me “it seems you have poor internet connection”. I had to tell her that I had two kids working on separate computers in the house and that might have been the reason. I got the “eye roll”. Unreal…

Yes “against” moms. I too have had to make choices b/w my career and my family, had to “play down” being a mom, and even been passed up for opportunities based on the fact that I had children and others didn’t. In 2020 it should not have to be this way!

Early in my career, I was fired for being 5 months pregnant… During my firing, I was told “now you can stay home with the baby”…
At another job, I was told “a woman can never be successful in this field if she has kids”…
A third job, I was written up because the day care center called and told me to pick my daughter up early because she had a fever…
The bias against Moms in this field is sexist and extreme.

Fabletics / Techstyle. Notorious for firing pregnant women or moms after they return from maternity leave. Have had to pay out!!!